Well, here it is Thursday again, and I have not started my blog yet. I used to start on Mondays and work on it all week, but lately, I have been busy, and it just has not happened that way. I mentioned comparisons last week, so let me see what I can write on that topic.
I was great at making comparisons. The first twenty-five years of my adult life, I never had a good-paying job, lived in a nice place, or drove a good car. One of the effects of child abuse is an inferiority complex. I felt so inferior I never pushed for what I deserved. I let employers take advantage of me. Later I discovered inferior feelings were behind making comparisons. Feeling less a person, made it feel like everyone else was better.
This person is better than I am. She has a beautiful family. She is prettier, has a better shape, can do her hair better, looks better in her clothes, cooks better, etc. etc. etc. Those are such meaningless comparisons. Well, she has a better job than I do, makes more money than me, is more creative, let’s face it, everyone is better than me in all ways. Then there was the other side of the coin. To make myself feel better, I had to compare myself to those that were less fortunate than I was. OH, POOP! None of this is true.
What matters is who we are, not what we look like, or what we do. When I discovered we are all equally God’s image and likeness, and reflect his qualities, what is there to compare? If we love our neighbors, then we support them in all their endeavors. We may be expressing different qualities in different ways, but that does not make anyone any better or worse than their neighbor, just different. I learned to value the differences instead of comparing them with mine.
I now appreciate beautiful people, with their fabulous hair, who look good in their clothes. I like looking at them, and they do not make me feel inferior anymore. I am happy for people who are justly paid for doing a good job. I also learned to have compassion for those less fortunate, to love them, and help when I can.
I am divorced and raised my daughter alone since she was three, with no support, so I had her to support too. As my self-image improved, so did my circumstances. I got better jobs, lived in nicer places, lost one hundred thirty-five pounds, could afford better clothes, and when I was fifty-eight got my first new car. 🙂 Still, I never dared to push for the pay I deserved. I was getting by better than I ever had before, so I let it go. Since I am about 95% retired, I felt it was too late to ask for a raise.
A few months ago, I got a huge surprise, a thirty-eight percent pay increase, yes, thirty-eight percent, without asking I might add. I never expected that and was shocked. The owner was opening a fifth company. He wanted to make sure I would stay until it was up and running. Twenty years ago, I helped set up their new computer system, and start up the forth company, and they wanted my help with this one. This pay increase could not have been timelier.
Between my social security, interest on my investments, and a few hours pay, I was doing just fine. Then an expense came up that required more funds than I could pay out of my monthly income. I did not want to take funds out of my investments. Now I can afford it. I could not be happier. I have one year to pay off this expense and have already accumulated enough for the first six payments. 🙂
I have said many times, God is good. It is not good luck; it is God’s support. Every time I have had a need, He supplied it. They are not coincidences; it is God in action.
It is funny how I started with comparisons and ended with God’s support. 🙂
Based on our thought and understanding of who we are, our human circumstances may appear to be very different. However, our spiritual essence is the same. You cannot compare sameness. We are all equal. What we need to do is start acting like it. Live the golden rule:
Luke 6: 31, 36, 37 “And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise. But love ye your enemies, and do good, and lend, hoping for nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of the Highest: Be ye therefore merciful, as your Father also is merciful. Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven:”
Science and Health, with Key to the scriptures, Page 497:24 The sixth tenet, “And we solemnly promise to watch, and pray for that Mind to be in us which was also in Christ Jesus; to do unto others as we would have them do unto us; and to be merciful, just, and pure.”
Well, there it is. Guess I did have something to write on Comparisons. Have a great day, and love your neighbor. I know that is hard sometimes, but well worth the effort.