Just recently I read a blog that just broke my heart. This young woman was so full of anger, hate, and frustration that her life is just agony. I wanted to reach out and take her in my arms and tell her everything is going to be OK. But, peace only comes from letting go of those feelings, and from the way she writes, she has not been able to do that yet. That anger is consuming her life. I can see she is trying very hard to change her life, but it’s not happening fast enough for her.
There is a little story someone told me once about a little girl who took her doll to a doll maker to have it repaired. She showed the man, and he reached out for the doll, but the little girl wouldn’t let go of it. It was her prized possession, and she was afraid to let it go. He told her he wanted to fix her doll and he would take good care of it, but he couldn’t do it unless she let it go. That’s the same as it is with God and us.
I know it’s hard to let go of the pain and hate when you’ve been so badly mistreated. You feel you have a right to feel that way. I know that’s the way I felt. I had a right to be angry. That anger was my prized possession for many years, but the only way I finally found peace was to let it go. I know how frustrating it can be for someone to just say, let go of the hate, and not tell you how, so I’m going to tell you how I did it. It’s a process.
The right kind of prayer can do a lot, but that’s just the beginning. Check out my Blog, “Learning how to Pray.” God is there for our guidance to help us correct our thinking and outlook on life and in doing so our life changes, but we have to take the steps. God doesn’t have a magic wand to make our life better. That responsibility is ours, but he gives us all the tools we need, like the strength and power to achieve a better life. Say this to yourself every morning: I am the spiritual image and likeness of God. I am never outside His influence, always in His universe. I am here to fulfill His will, manifest His qualities and glorify Him. I exist at this moment, not in the past or future but in the Eternal Now. Knowing those things can change your perspective on life.
I needed to define my relationship with God. Following is something I wrote about in my blog on “Steadfast Thought.” If I equate God to the sun and his creation to the rays emitting from the sun, all unique and individual, then I started to see that the rays do not exist without the sun, and without the rays, there is no sun. The same analogy can be applied to the ocean. Without all the drops of water, there is no Ocean. To be an Ocean, it requires drops of water. They are interdependent, and I began to see my relation to God. God and his creation are dependent on each other for their very existence.
With that realization came the understanding that I was a very different kind of person than I previously thought because now I understood that I was his offspring, like a ray of light from the sun, or a drop of water from the ocean and I had all God’s good qualities. This realization was the beginning of the change in my life. Understanding who I was and where I came from made all the difference. Now, I had to put that understanding into action.
I had to understand that whatever was true about me was also true about everyone, as we are all rays of light and drops of water, now that doesn’t mean they have all discovered that yet. I just discovered it. So some people are not acting like they are God’s child. I wasn’t, but that changed.
I was now seeing a correlation between letting go and forgiving. I had learned that forgiving was not for the other person but for me. To forgive is to give up all the anger, hate, frustration and desire to get revenge. That is exactly the same as letting go. They both quiet our thoughts so we can hear God. So if calling it letting go feels better to you than forgiving, then call it Letting Go.
I had to take all those angry feelings and replace them with true feelings about who I was. It started slow. Every time I had an angry thought I replaced it with a good thought. I found quotes from the Bible that were comforting and used them. Some times I would repeat them over and over until the angry thoughts melted away. Every time I felt hate, I replaced that feeling with thoughts of love. I thought about what love was and how God loved all his creation and kept those ideas in thought until the feeling of hate was dissolved. Those angry thoughts and hate feelings started coming less and less as the good thought became a part of me. It was a battle worth fighting, and I finally won. It didn’t happen overnight, but I did find peace and happiness.
You may not feel it yet, but we are all good people. You may be lacking things in your life right now, but that won’t last forever. Don’t let those times frustrate you, stay calm. I went through times when I didn’t know where my next meal was coming from, but those times passed. The more you find out about who you are and your relation to God the better your life will become.
When we quiet the anger, it enables us to hear God’s voice. That still small voice is constantly communicating with us, so listen. He tells us the steps to take. He shows us the path to walk, as soon as we quite the anger so we can hear Him. God (Love) supports us in our struggle for happiness.
Psalms 139: 7-10 “Whither shall I go from thy spirit? or whither shall I flee from thy presence? If I ascend up into heaven, thou art there: if I make my bed in hell, behold, thou art there. If I take the wings of the morning, and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea; Even there shall thy hand lead me, and thy right hand shall hold me.”
Let go and let God, and discover the wonderful life that awaits you.